Hum mein se zyada tar ko kisi ne mahwari ke baare mein bataya hi nahin.
To menopause par hamein bitha kar samjhane wala bhi koi nahin tha.
Urdu mein menopause ke liye lafz hai. Us se pehle ke barson ke liye koi lafz nahin. Woh baras jab mahwari waqt ki pabund nahin rehti, neend chali jaati hai, sab se bure lamhe mein garmi gardan tak charh aati hai, aur aap sochne lagti hain ke aakhir mujhe hua kya hai. Lafz na ho to search bar mein likhne ko kuch nahin hota. Aur aksar doctor se kehne ko bhi nahin.
Jis baat ne mujhe sab se zyada chaunkaya
Parhna shuru kiya, aur parhti chali gayi. Sab se zyada hairat is par hui ke perimenopause par kitna kam tehqeeqi kaam hua hai, mahireen ke beech bhi.
Rawalpindi ka aik jaiza mere saath reh gaya hai. Benazir Bhutto Hospital ke nafsiyati shobe ki OPD mein us ne 45 se 55 saal ki 250 aisi auraton ko dekha jin mein depression ki tashkhees pehle ho chuki thi. 78% mein perimenopause ki numayan alamaat thin jin par kisi ne dhyan nahin diya tha. 82% depression ki dawa le rahi thin (Gul, 2024).
Un auraton ke paas doctor ki kami nahin thi. Kami un lafzon ki thi jin se woh doctor ko bata saktin ke ho kya raha hai.
Yeh badalna chahiye. Ise badalne mein Roshara mera hissa hai.
Roshara kya hai
Perimenopause aur menopause ka aik muft platform, English, اردو aur Roman Urdu mein. Muft is liye ke apne jism ke baare mein maloomat aap ki aamdani par munhasir nahin honi chahiyen.
Yeh teen kaam karti hai.
Yeh likhne mein madad karti hai. Mood, tawanai, neend aur hot flush, har roz. Phir baqi jo kuch saamne aaya us ka tag: dimaghi dhund, jodon mein dard, dil ki dharkan tez hona, bhaari mahwari, dhabbe. Kul mila kar taqriban 30 alamaat, aur woh cheezein jin se us din ki haalat bigri ho sakti hai. Garam mausam. Masale daar khana. Chai. Chhoota hua khana. Aap taiyar hon to yeh sab aap ke doctor ke liye aik record ban jaata hai, PDF ya email ki shakl mein. Record English mein jaata hai, taake aap ne jis zabaan mein bhi likha ho, doctor ise parh sake.
Yeh samajhne mein madad karti hai. 130 se zyada mazameen, un sawalon par jo hum apni qareeb tareen saheliyon se poochte hue bhi hichkichate hain. Ilaaj ke baare mein likhte hain to batate hain ke rehnumai kis ki hai (Pakistan Menopause Society, NICE, British Menopause Society), aur aap ke liye is ka matlab kya hai, yeh jaanne ke liye aap ko licensed doctor ke paas bhejte hain.
Yeh aik doosre se milne mein madad karti hai. Halqe hamari community hai. Poochein, bataayen, aur mehsoos karein ke koi samajh raha hai. Chahein to naam ke baghair post karein, kyunke hum mein se bohat si aise phone par parhti hain jo poora ghar istemal karta hai.
Yeh kabhi kya nahin karegi
Aap ko yeh nahin bataegi ke aap ko kya hua hai. Yeh nahin bataegi ke kya lena hai. Kisi nateeje ka wada nahin karegi.
Yeh aap ke doctor ka kaam hai. Hamara kaam aap ko us kamre mein taiyar kar ke pohanchana hai.
Aage kya
Waqt ke saath mazeed zabaanein. Chaar paanch aur, taake zyada auraten in barson ke baare mein us zabaan mein parh saken jis mein woh sochti hain.
Maqsad wohi rehta hai. Koi aurat sharminda, be-sahara ya bolne se darti hui na rahe. Main chahti hoon ke aap doctor ke kamre mein poori maloomat, aitmaad aur is taiyari ke saath jayen ke jo chahiye woh maang saken.
Shuru kahan se karein, yeh soch rahi hain to Yaaddasht achhi gawah nahin mein woh saat cheezein hain jinhen is mulaqat se pehle likh lena chahiye.